How Can I Find A True Friend?

We are taking a look at some aspects of friendship for women. Women seem to have many acquaintances and very few friends. Last time we looked at a few qualities of a person who would make a good friend and we will pick up where we left off.

When looking for a friend search for a woman with wisdom.

“For wisdom is better than jewels; And all desirable things cannot compare with her.
Proverbs 8:11 (NASB)

Hundreds of verses in Scripture point the Christian toward Wisdom and encourage us to pursue it at all costs. Wisdom is called more precious than gold and jewels (Prov. 3:14-16).

“The beginning of wisdom is: Acquire wisdom; And with all your acquiring, get understanding. “Prize her, and she will exalt you; She will honor you if you embrace her. “She will place on your head a garland of grace; She will present you with a crown of beauty.”
Proverbs 4:7-9 (NASB)

Choosing a wise woman for a friend will bless your life and you will be able to trust her counsel. A wise woman will have the Word committed to her memory and will endeavor to live what she knows. Her life will be characterized by a visible commitment to the truth in spite of what it may cost her. She will take the time to understand your and your position. She will be relational and will desire to know you, and listen to you.

A true friend will love you, just as you are. She won't be afraid to tell you when you sin but she won't condemn you nor condone it. She will lead you in paths of righteousness and try to influence you to do what is righteous for Christ's sake.

A true friend is willing to sacrifice for you. God has blessed me with several women who have sacrificed and given of themselves in so many ways! They painted and cleaned along side me, they provided meals and transportation, and they provided finances when I had no ability to do what needed to be done. I have experienced these things in abundance.

Jesus is our example in all these things. He is the perfect fulfillment of each of these qualities we should both seek in a friend and seek to be as a friend. If you can find a friend who has even a few of these qualities, she is a true friend indeed.