There are several psychologized methods used to deal with our memories, and none of them is found in Scripture or is remotely Biblical. What they are is a form of slavery to the one who participates in them!
The Biblical view of the past is very different! First, you have to realize, believe, accept, and understand that regardless of what has happened to you God has freed you from your past. Hallelujah! God has freed us from the past!! This should make us all jump up and shout!
Some of the most encouraging words in the Bible are found in 1 Corinthians 6
Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 (NASB)
There was a time when some of us were just like the first part of that passage above, but now your sins have been washed away and you have been set apart for God. You have been made right with God because of what the Lord Jesus Christ and the Spirit of our God have done for you.
Do you truly understand what the bolded portion of the passage above means? Do you understand that regardless of what you were before you were saved, regardless of your prior sinful habits, you have been changed.
But remember that the temptations that come into your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will keep the temptation from becoming so strong that you can’t stand up against it. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you will not give in to it. 1 Corinthians 10:13 (NLT)
I find this tremendously encouraging! The Bible which does not and cannot lie, tells you and I that we are not slaves to our past, and we have been freed from the power that sin had over us in the past! Obviously, we are not perfect and we will still sin as this is part of the progressive nature of the maturing we undergo as Believers. Although we still sin, our relationship to those sins is now different.
Now you are free from sin, your old master, and you have become slaves to your new master, righteousness. Romans 6:18 (NLT)
We are not in bondage to our sinful selves; we were formerly not able not to sin. Now we have a choice. We have been freed from that sin master, and now are servants of righteousness. If you have been told or counseled with the psychological methodology you may believe that you are captive to your past because of what has been done to you, or because of what you have done.
This is so freeing to someone who has been in bondage to such a fatalistic belief system as Freudian therapists promote! Remember what Jesus said: And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 8:32 (NLT)