"A Journey in Search of Comfort..." Cont.

I have been posting from an article written by my friend and fellow discipler Howard Eames. He posted the article on Christian Communicators Worldwide a while back, and I thought you would benefit from reading portions of it. He read Jim Elliff's Comfort for Christian Parents and wrote an excellent article on it. I have posted much of it over this past week. If you are interested in reading the article in its entirety I invite you to click here to do so.

Jim continues,
Charles Spurgeon was not born with the doctrines of God's sovereignty in grace prepackaged. He writes that he was meditating on his own conversion one day and stopped to consider, "If left to myself, I never would have come to Jesus Christ in saving faith." And so it is with you and me if we are honest before the Lord. God was able to stop my mad dash to destruction, my toboggan slide to eternal retribution, my wild flight from sanity and all that is true and good. Most surely He is able to arrest my son or daughter's equally madcap adventure in vanity and worldly pleasure.
There is no true joy apart from a biblical understanding and embracing of the absolute and exhaustive sovereignty of God. This is the clear message of the Book of Ecclesiastes. Joy comes "at the end of a tether."1

That tether is the sovereignty of God. When you and I pray for our unbelieving children, let us pray that they would come to the end of their tether. In a state of what Charles Wesley so appropriately called "nature's night," they are in prison. It is a self-induced prison. God is in the business of setting prisoners free, is He not? His electing grace is our friend. In this history of redemption, God has worked wide and deep in Christian homes, in Christian families. We pray that God's eye will diffuse a quickening ray in the prison of our childrens' unsaved lives. May they awake, rise, and follow Him all their days.

Jim continues:
How often Donna and I have thought about all the "logs" we have laid in the fireplace of our children's hearts. God is able to set them ablaze. How many children have been raised in godly homes only to settle into a life of either respectable or defiant rebellion for a season of time. And then God, who is rich in mercy, opened their blind eyes, unstopped their deaf ears, and brought them back to the faith of their father and mother, perhaps the faith of many generations of true believers.

The lives of John Newton and Adoniram Judson are very instructive. It can be a healing experience to read of children who have wandered from parental instruction and Christian obedience only to be returned to the flock by a Sovereign God who is committed to "saving His people from their sins" (Matt. 1:21).

Pray that God will set the logs ablaze by His converting grace. Pray regularly, pray fervently, pray believingly. Immerse yourself (as we have) in biblical truth. Shift your mind to the promises of divine grace found in the Scriptures. As a parent, focus your faith by meditating on a passage like Luke 15, in which you see the great images of faith. You discover the Father's grace in action. Lost things do not remain lost; they are found. The dead come alive! The lost sheep is found by the shepherd, the lost coin by the housewife, and the lost son is welcomed home with almost scandalous warmth by a loving father.

These are images for your faith—images of a Heavenly Father's heart for lost souls. Pray that God will give you faith to believe, and to help you in your unbelief!

Jim continues:
Well, it was the case in both of our experiences. Donna and I have come from very rebellious backgrounds. Neither of us were raised in a truly Christian home (in fact, I was raised a Mormon and became a proselytizing atheist until converted at age 28). Both of us are trophies of His amazing grace! And it pleased our sovereign Lord to draw us to Himself relatively late in life, and only after a great deal of deception and religious confusion. His electing love and grace shines very brightly in our lives. And now we are both warriors for His truth. That is what often happens to people who have been religiously deceived and then are brought to the truth. They become soldiers, just like "Valiant for the Truth" in John Bunyan's Pilgrim's Progress.

We have come to see that our sins and failures and inconsistencies have not been the reason for our children's unbelief. They were conceived in unbelief. They have responded poorly (at times) to our shaping influences, and their heart aversion to God's truth has taken form over many, many years. And now they have fallen into what we would consider Christian heresy (a contemporary form of Socinianism for the curious).

And yes, it is difficult to forgive oneself for failures and sins and inconsistencies and for saying those things to our defiant teens that should have never, never come out of our mouths. And yes, our children can be cruel and amazingly resourceful in their blame-shifting and fault-finding. I mean, it is never their fault, is it? Such is the fallen condition of man's heart. Sin has unhinged everything!
But Donna and I had absolutely no logs in the fireplace when God found us and set the fire in our hearts. Your children (and my children) have many, many fine logs on the heart. May God be pleased to light them on fire as we continue to pray. Confess your sins and failures, but remember, please remember, parents:

In the Gospel and for the sake of Jesus Christ, God deals with us as if we had never sinned. Equally glorious is that He deals with us as if we have always done the right thing. This is the meaning of justification, and this is to the praise of the glory of His grace. If you do not believe this, then you need to personally put the "amazing" back into grace for your own life as a parent.