The world has its own way of dealing with worry. Here are some suggestions I found in various places:
One useful way is to set aside a "worry time". This is time specifically set aside when you will do nothing but think about whatever the issue is. When you are tempted to worry, you tell yourself that you will tell yourself that this is something you will deal with it in your “worry time” and then give yourself permission to do so.
- Use “emotion-focused”, rather than “problem-focused” coping techniques.
- Practice “mindfulness". From very old Eastern meditative traditions. One of the main points of mindfulness is that one tries to pay attention to the present moment.
- Don’t worry at night about not being able to sleep! It is best to remind yourself to worry only during your “worry time” and to use bedtime as your time for relaxation and recuperation
- Make sure you remind yourself of your “worry time” and enjoy your “non-worry time”, paying attention to the present moment as much as possible
Overcoming anxiety is done this way according to this “expert”
- Lack of control over your thoughts strengthens your anxiety. As negative thoughts get stronger and stronger, your anxiety gets stronger. You need to learn to control your thoughts.
- Start the day with several minutes of positive affirmations
- Be busy, do something. By doing something you keep your mind off your anxiety
- Find reasons to laugh.
- Use positive words in your conversation and in your inner talk
- Affirm and visualize positive situations and events. Visualize a happy and positive solution to your problems.
Too often, the answers put forth by Christians are no better than those of the world. The Christianized versions of treatment are not that much different than their secular counterparts.
In numerous Christian self help books, readers are told to think godly thoughts, clear their consciences, and trust God. They are told to share their feelings and fears, get an accountability partner, a prayer partner and recite Bible verses.
There is the inescapable connection to increasing your self-esteem, being empowered and confident, as well as the line of thought that says Satan is attacking me, and that is why I feel this way.
Unfortunately, much of what "Christian counseling" offers is no different than what the secular folks do, including the use of medications and various holistic cures.
Christians tend to substitute the vitamin routine and herbs for the prescribed medications because it makes them feel less guilty about taking a pill to deal with fear, worry and anxiety.
Dr. Ed Hinson wrote a book titled, Overcoming Life’s Toughest Problems and in it he says, "Worry is anxiety over circumstances beyond our control. Worry is based on the fear that God is not control of our lives. It is a self-inflicted panic that is the opposite of confidence in God."
There is a difference between thinking for problem solving and worrying. Problem solving involves looking at the situation in a factual way and creating various scenarios to bring about a resolution.
Worry is different. It usually involves “what if” and “if only” thoughts. Worry is ruminating, meditating on the problem without being focused on a solution. Worry is also a preoccupation with past events and bad events. A worrier finds themselves thinking about past events that were depressing or anxiety-provoking.They also tend to think about all kinds of future events that might happen and which would make them feel badly if they did.
Those of you who struggle with worry, doesn’t it seem like at times, for no obvious reason, you just can't stop thinking about negative or worry-some things? Each time you do think about them, you body reacts just as if the event were actually happening or about to happen. The more you think about this thing happening, the worse you feel. The amazing thing about such a set up is that the event is not actually happening right now. It exists only in your mind. How you feel in those moments is being influenced by something that no longer exists or does not yet exist.
Most of the time, if such thoughts come to mind, you can recognize that those events are not happening and can readily dismiss them. Other times, however, you find that you cannot ignore such thoughts; they continue to return to your awareness, and you just cannot stop them.
Worry is the fear that seemingly adverse events will occur in the future. It is also based on “what if?”
These thoughts blur your thinking and remove your peace of mind because worry controls your mind.
Worrying is a waste of energy because often times, we worry for nothing, because events do not transpire or take place as we fear.
Worry indicates a lack of understanding of God’s sovereignty. If we have faith and trust in a God who is faithful and has all events in His hand then why worry? It says to us we do not truly believe God will work out all things for our good.