Undesirable Pain or Unbearable Pain?

Most of the people I minister to are in some kind of pain. Emotional pain, pain of a relationship that has gone bad, the pain that accompanies guilt and shame, and even helping those who deal with physical pain all come for help, healing and hope from God's Word in the process we call biblical counseling. 

I don't know anyone who actually enjoys being in pain, most people really hate it and want to avoid it. Even those who self-injure don't do it because they like the pain, but as a coping mechanism. 

Sometimes women tell me that their pain is unbearable and they cannot handle it. In Christ, that is not the case and part of the obligation of the Biblical Counselor is to help her to see her pain from God's perspective. 

Jesus is well acquainted with pain, suffering, and rejection. 

He was despised and forsaken of men, A man of sorrows and acquainted with grief; And like one from whom men hide their face  He was despised, and we did not esteem Him. Isa. 53:3 (NASB)

And He began to teach them that the Son of Man must suffer many things and be rejected by the elders and the chief priests and the scribes, and be killed, Mark 8:31 (NASB) 

He was rejected by His family, friends, and countrymen. Those who once embraced Him were lined up to jeer him on the way to His crucifixion.  

Jesus knew what He was facing and in the Garden the night before His crucifixion and He prayed to God that He would continue to follow the will of His Father.  We would most likely consider this pain to be unbearable, since the looming hours were so horrifying to Jesus that He sweat drops of blood from the stress of it (Luke 22:44). I daresay that none of us have experienced such an event but even if we did, would the presence of Christ be enough to see us through it?

The Bible tells us, “Yes!”
·         My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. (2 Corinthians 12:9)
·         My presence will go with you, and I will give you rest. (Exodus 33:14)
·         The eternal God is your refuge, and underneath are the everlasting arms. (Deuteronomy 33:27)
·         Be strong and courageous; do not be frightened or dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. (Joshua 1:9)

These are but a few of the many verses of Scripture the Lord uses to remind us that He is with us in the midst of any pain we are called to endure.

For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who in every respect has been tested as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore approach the throne of grace with boldness, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need. Hebrews 4:16 (NASB)

Truly, we can endure anything the Lord allows into our lives up to and including the pain of death. We have a perfect example in our Lord and Savior and He is our ever present help in time of need (Psalm 46:1).