One Shall Become Two

But Jesus said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart he wrote you this commandment. “But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female.“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother, and the two shall become one flesh; so they are no longer two, but one flesh. “What therefore God has joined together let no man separate.” Mark 10:5-9 (NASB)

Divorce is rampant, even in the church.  Divorce brings out the worst in people as each person fights for their own interests.  It is a literal rending of one person into two people (Mark 10:7-8) and so divorce is often excruciatingly painful both personally and as a process.

By its very design divorce is intended to tear things apart. The couple separates property, finances, homes, and children.  In addition, often the people seem determined to tear each other apart too.  Vile, hurtful words are hurled back and forth and it is very sad to see people who once loved each other determined to inflict deep and lasting pain on one another.

“For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel,
Malachi 2:16 (NASB)

Yes, God hates divorce and He hates everything that is involved with a divorce. Do you realize that when a divorce takes place, it is because one person or sometimes both have become involved in some aspect of idolatry? When one or both people in the marriage have become so focused on their own wants, needs and desires that what honors God no longer matters that is idolatrous.

Idolatry is the worship of something or someone other than God. Idolatry of self is evident when the focus in marriage changes from thinking of your spouse to thinking only of gratifying self and meeting the perceived needs of yourself. Idolatry is self-worship and when self becomes primary we see the kinds of actions I mentioned previously.

What even Christians fail to realize, is that even in a divorce situation we are to act in a God-honoring manner. We are to say and do things that glorify God no matter how hateful and horrid the spouse acts toward us. This goes against the grain, against the flesh. The flesh cries out for vindication, revenge and equity! The flesh cannot stand the thought of being taken advantage of or being made a fool of yet the call of Christ is that we be less concerned with our vindication than our righteousness in Christ.  Our Lord asks us to humble ourselves the He might lift us up (James 4:10; 1 Peter 5:6).