Demystifying Biblical Counseling- Eph 4:24

Today's guest blogger is my friend and former ministry partner, Pastor Bruce Roeder.  Bruce Roeder is the associate pastor at Missio Dei Fellowship in Kenosha, WI. He oversees many key ministries at Missio related to discipleship and counseling. Bruce is a biblical counselor with the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (formerly NANC). Bruce has a ministry blog titled Church, State, Faith and Culture, and also writes a History blog titled: History Stuff that Interests Me and has another titled: Church, State, Faith and Culture


Ephesians 4:22-24 is the most common passage that is used to describe the process of biblical change.

"...to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness. (Ephesians 4:22-24 ESV)

Paul follows the passage with some practical examples of what the change looks like:

Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another. Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil. Let the thief no longer steal, but rather let him labor, doing honest work with his own hands, so that he may have something to share with anyone in need. Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.

But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints. Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving. (Ephesians 4:25-5:4 ESV)

Col. 3:-4:1 follows the same pattern as to what the change looks like.

If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ who is your life appears, then you also will appear with him in glory.

Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. On account of these the wrath of God is coming. In these you too once walked, when you were living in them. But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth. Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator. Here there is not Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave, free; but Christ is all, and in all.

Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. Bondservants, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality.

Masters, treat your bondservants justly and fairly, knowing that you also have a Master in heaven. (Colossians 3-4:1 ESV)

Taken together the passages expound on what is meant by Eph. 4:24….and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.

In other words, as one man put it, change isn't change until it's change.

To be recreated in the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness means to actively put on the Lord Jesus Christ.

It's not enough to stop lying, or to remain bitter, or stop stealing, or stop looking at porn and all the other sins the Scripture lists.  Genuine, repentant change occurs when sinful habits of the hearts are replaced with Christ-honoring habits that speak the truth in love, practice forgiveness, give instead of steal and reserve sex for the marriage bed just to name a few examples from the passages.

The change is therefore an active process that is obeying Christ in order to become like Him. James 1:22-25 describes the active process like  this:

But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks intently at his natural face in a mirror. For he looks at himself and goes away and at once forgets what he was like. But the one who looks into the perfect law, the law of liberty, and perseveres, being no hearer who forgets but a doer who acts, he will be blessed in his doing. (James 1:22-25 ESV)

The process of change is perhaps summed up best with this line from Jim Berg's Changed Into His Image:

The Spirit of God takes the Word of God and changes us to become like the Son of God.


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