Some couples will use 50 Shades
for purposes of sexual arousal. They will justify this behavior by saying they actually only have sex with each other but use the movie for ideas, or as a sort of a “jump start” to sex. Let me be very clear: This is not
For this is the will of God for you, that you abstian from every form of sexual immortality. 1 Thess. 4:3
If your husband asks you to participate in any of these things, he is asking you to sin. You must kindly yet firmly tell him you cannot do this because you would be sinning. This is not
an area of submission. A wife cannot submit or obey when her husband asks her to sin. God is her higher authority and these things are all forbidden in Scripture (Lev.18; 20:12; Rom 1:27; 1 Cor 5;1; 6:18; Jude 1:7).
By viewing pornography (and this is
pornography) alone or with your husband you are sinning with your eyes and your heart (Matt. 5:27-29). All pornography is ungodly, and if you have participated in this kind of behavior you must stop this immediately.
But among you there must not even be a hint of sexual immortality, or of any kind of impurity for this is improper for Gods holy people. Ephesians 5:3.
Discuss this with your husband and confess your sin to God and then to each other. You must then ask each others forgiveness and determine to never participate in these things again. Dispose of any pornography together
for accountability sake. Purify your minds by meditating on the Scriptural truths regarding sex.
Once you have confessed your sin to God and each other (when appropriate) asked forgiveness and granted forgiveness you can move on to renewing your mind with respect to sexual intimacy.